Mother and daughter relationship

Be a mother is a hard job, even hardest  when your children are teenager.  I'm trying to understand why my relationship with my two teenagers daughters is so difficult.   when they were adolescent they were the most sweetest girls in the world, now that they are teenagers they are always with bad attitude.  All I say to them is no right because according to them I don't know nothing.  They know everything.  I'm old fashion, etc, etc.  
I had read some articles about mother daughter relationship and I put together some paragraphs that best describe my relationship with my two daughters.

"A daughter is a mother's gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of her self. >And mothers are their daughters' role model, their biological and emotional road map, the arbiter of all their relationships."   Sometimes this is very complex.. Mother-daughter relationships are among the most complicated families experience. They often comprise many conflicting feelings, such as love, anger, worry, resentment, envy, and need.  

 

 My beautiful daughters Milkeira and Nicole

Mothers and daughters have always shared a deeper connection than any other members of the immediate family. Mothers have always been a source of love and guidance for their daughters, but have also been a source of grief and irritation sometimes.  "We're either best friends or worst enemies. There's no in-between. Sometimes we can discuss the future in civilized and intimate ways. We connect and hug and laugh so hard; we're in perfect synch. Then, other times, we can't even be in the same room without insulting each other. She's controlling, bossy, and constantly in my face, never listening or respecting what I have to say."

Mother-daughter relationships are complex and diverse. Some mothers and daughters are best friends. Others talk once a week. Some see each other weekly; others live in different states or countries. Some spar regularly. Some avoid conflict. Others talk through everything. 

There are ups and downs, no matter how positive the relationship. complaints that daughters have about their moms: Moms try to parent them and are overly critical and demanding. From moms’ perspective, daughters don’t listen to them, make poor choices and have no time for them. 

The best mother-daughter ties are ones where they care so much, they see the other's faults, but want to protect the other from knowing that they see them.  The closest bond in the family is the one that is shared by a mother and her daughter. Theirs is a bittersweet relationship, which goes through numerous ups and downs in life and in the end, still turns out to be the most intimate of all the other relations. In her childhood, a daughter copies her mom and wants to be just like her. At the age of five, her mother is like her goddess. She smears her face with her mom's lipstick and models her earrings and high heels, wanting to be just like mommy. She applies her nail polish, mimics her creams-smothering motion and tries to do every thing that she sees her mother doing.

As she enters teenage, a daughter suddenly becomes the most ignorant and out-of-touch creature on the planet, for her mother. In this phase of her life, a daughter feels that her own mother does not understand her feelings. She prefers her friends over her mother and spends as much time away from home as possible. Then, somewhere between her twenties, a daughter realizes that the friend she was searching for throughout the teenage years was so near to her all the time and she is none other than her own mom! The relationship between a daughter and her mother is so complex, yet so simple.  

 When it comes to a woman and her daughter, fights are so common, be it because of the wide age gap between the two or due to the mom being over protective of her daughter or owing to the fact that the mom still treats her grown-up daughter like a kid. However, whenever there is a problem, the mother-daughter duo will be seen standing alongside and facing the world together. A daughter learns to be a woman from her mother. However, even after she becomes a mother of her own kids, she is pampered by her own mother. This is what makes their relationship all the more special.